Don't be afraid to match your friend with a younger man.
Goldman says many divorced guys in their 30s and 40s date older women because they don't want to disappoint a partner of the same age or younger who wants children.
Say, "Meet and see what happens," and after they do, ask questions like, "What did you think of him? Only interfere if there's confusion after the first date.
She thinks he's not into it, but he told you he is.
"Avoid those overused adjectives and concentrate on the individual's character, integrity and core values." If there's a potential dealbreaker? "And explain to the guy what your friend means to you," Dr. The match needs to know how much you care about the person with whom you're setting him up.6. If you're arranging their first meeting, avoid loud locales, Goldman says.
"You can share with her, 'I don't care if he's X, Y and Z, but you might,'" Dr. "The most important thing: They need to talk," she says, so no movie theaters. Three hours stuck with someone can get awkward," she adds. Expressing excitement puts unnecessary pressure on them, she says.
If he's someone you used to date, you can set him up with the friend, Dr. "Just tell her, 'This wasn't my cup of tea, but he might be yours.'" Once you sort out your feelings about the match, ask yourself if you and the friendship can weather any jealousy over your friend's new relationship.
It’s Thursday night and you’re out for dinner, the last Single in a group of married friends.
"If she's career-driven, someone who isn't might not be a good match.
If she wants to remarry, a newly divorced guy who's playing the field isn't the right fit." Adds Dr.
"People in relationships sometimes think anyone not in one needs to be in one," Dr. So check that your friend actually wants your matchmaking help. Still, you shouldn't set up two people just because they're both single, says Fay Goldman, founder of Meaningful Connections in New York City.