It’s better to just think about what’s happening and where you’re coming from in all of it. But when they consistently do the same thing and it is something that just doesn’t work for me and I feel like it’s reasonable for me to expect it, I do bring it up.Some things to consider: Personally, in a relationship, if someone doesn’t do what I expect them to do, I usually forgive them… I would say it should be as simple as, “OK, you’re doing this and it makes me feel this way (whatever it is you feel) and it makes me think this…In fact, if you tell a guy what he’s doing that you don’t like and how it makes you feel, that’s one of the best ways to help the guy get where you’re coming from.
He says he wants to be with me forever and that he loves me- I mean, could see us being like that but does he really mean it or is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear?
He’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me, but sometimes he won’t call or text the whole day.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about three months now.
We’ve already had sex and I think we took it way too fast.
It’s not the last time that it will happen and I can tell you that as good as I try to be, I’ll occasionally do what you’re talking about… A trap that I see a lot of couples fall into is that one person is annoyed by what the other one is doing, but instead of figuring out a constructive way to address it, they just hold resentment towards the other person to a degree.
When I say address it, I don’t necessarily mean talking it out.
In fact, I would even be so bold as to say that a man will almost inevitably leave a woman if he does not believe he can make her happy.
It’s a good thing though, or you wouldn’t really think she’s worth the effort.
It sounds obvious when I write it out, but in real life, you do need to keep clear on where you’re coming from. Adding to this point, I would also avoid words like “never” and “always” when it comes to things he does.
Let me tell you, nothing makes me angrier faster than having a woman tell me I “always” do something (whatever it is) wrong or that I “never” do something (whatever it is) right.
In this scenario, I’m not pointing any fingers, I’m just saying it’s a smart thing to do because it will give you insight into how you are and clarity on the whole situation.