For example, kissing is OK, but what about kissing that goes on so long that it starts becoming a make-out session?
The name of the game for people in this group is avoiding situations that will tempt them (e.g., being alone with their boyfriend/girlfriend in their room).
Plus, being an island out their in the largely not-devoutly-faithful world can cause problems of it own…it can dilute your faith.
Advantages Examples: Most couples who wait-until-marriage and then get into a long-term relationship in their early-to-mid 20’s end up falling into this category out of shear desire for physical intimacy.
They don’t have a choice but to be driven and faithful, because their whole young life is just them and God. This approach allows you to date, have steady boyfriends/girlfriends, and express your affection for them in sweet but safe (and Christian) ways.
Anything beyond holding hands/kissing is going to be too tempting and violate your pact to be abstinent.
The other methods (No Dating, Holding Hands/Kissing Only) are admirable and you applaud those that can maintain them, but they’re not for you. Those who use the “everything but” method to wait until marriage are often islands, meaning that they can survive on their own apart from Christian communities.
Because some level of sexual activity is on the table, it opens them up to relationships with people who aren’t waiting till marriage but are willing to wait for them (since they still get sexual release it’s not as hard to exclude that one thing). Sometimes you can have your cake and eat it too, but sometimes that’s conflicting.You’re just going to live for yourself and for God until you meet the person you recognize as your soulmate.Afterall, why date at all if you know they’re not the one for you? Dating before meeting your soulmate will only tempt, distract, and dilute you.Example: Many devoutly Christian girls (particularly younger girls) in churches and youth groups across America.Everything but intercourse is allowed (oral sex, etc.).Creativity is encouraged to keep things fun and interesting over a long-term relationship without crossing the line (having sex).