But if one of you is absolutely sure you want a child and the other categorically refuses, you're in trouble.
Kaye."Some men—and stereotypically this is men—are just not cut out for marriage; they are unable to remain monogamous, even if they seemed to have wanted to get married," says Bowman.
What's worse, they manage to put the blame for their philandering and untrustworthiness on you, usually for being too jealous or controlling.
After the kind of affair a couple can recover from, "there are regrets, apologies, and a promise to put an end to it and seek counseling." Not so with the serial cheater: that's a problem you can't fix, and likely spells the end of your marriage.
There are many areas of compromise in a marriage, such as who is responsible for dealing with the finances, where you should spend the holidays, or how to handle family issues.
If you've reached a point where all you ever talk about is mundane things, like who needs to buy milk, divorce could be in your future, says Savage.
"Lack of personal, intimate exchange in a marriage is a very bad sign, especially if you are talking to others.""There is a definite lack of interest in sex and they don't communicate about it and don't do anything about it," says Dawn Cardi, a matrimonial lawyer of 28 years, currently in private practice in Manhattan.
"One partner can't do all the trying on his or her own," says Bowman.
"You can't go anywhere like that." A good rule of thumb: If it's been a year with no progress, it may be time to call it quits..
But if not, and having a child is a life goal of yours, you may be looking at the end of your marriage," says Bowman.
No problem in a marriage can be solved without open, honest communication.
It’s an either-or situation – you can choose to get your own benefits or the derivative benefits of your ex-spouse, whichever is greater.