Unfortunately, it is not uncommon to hear men say that they have thought of suicide, usually for the first time in their lives.
That men can have extreme reactions should not come as a surprise.
One emotion our society does easily accept from men is anger, so it is often anger that we see in men, especially when they are in the presence of others.
Usually the intensity of the anger is related to the intensity of the (unexpressed) grief. It can cause men to say or do things that hurt the person who rejected them.
In this case, the biological phenomenon is simple: pain and negative emotions activate the reward centers of the brain, causing unconscious addiction to those negative emotions.
Let me say that again, because it was really, really important: Ladies and gentlemen -- this is a whopper.
As a psychologist, I frequently work with men whose partners have left them.
They are often surprised by the level of anguish they experience.
There must be some deep biological phenomenon at work here.
You probably know folks who are stuck in terrible relationships, or who keep on having the same bad relationship with differently-named people.
What's happening with negative emotions is that they tap into these same ancient survival circuits to get us a little bit of that reward drug. This is why the battered wife goes back to the abusive husband.